Who can forget the feelings that you experience at the start of a new and promising relationship? There’s hardly a moment that passes when you don’t think about him and you can barely contain the anticipation of seeing him again. You don’t think you could ever love anyone or anything as much as you love your new significant other and you cannot imagine your life without that wonderful person in it. And then it happens. Although the cause may be perfectly obvious and is well-justified, it can also happen for reasons you do not understand and probably never will. You are beginning to fall out of love with him. Here are a few reasons that may explain why.
1. HE DOESN’T STAND UP FOR HER
It’s not uncommon for a guy to find himself in an awkward position between his family or friends and his lady. Falling in love with someone in no way guarantees that family and friends will be accepting of that person and things can get quite complicated. A man that is truly committed to a woman will stand up for her when others say disrespectful things about her or otherwise put her down. Sure, a woman can hold her own when needed but she also needs to know that her man cares enough about her to challenge others who question her character or motives.
2. SHE IS NOT FEELING APPRECIATED
Having a relationship means more than just spending time together or calling each other your “significant other.” As you have probably heard many times before, successful relationships require some amount of effort and if he takes her for granted and does not make it a point to make sure she is appreciated, the relationship may sour. It’s a cop-out when a guy says that he “knows” that his lady appreciates him simply because they are together. That’s not likely to make her feel very special. Making her feel appreciated involves actually doing things that demonstrate feelings of love like buying a special gift, penning a love letter or preparing a special meal for her. Like we said, relationships involve work.
3. LACK OF SUPPORT
Most of us need encouragement and support from time to time and who else should you be able to count on more than your significant other? We all go through tough times and could really use a cheerleader in our corner to help us get through them. Putting her down by telling her she’s not smart enough to ace that test or attractive enough to audition for that modeling job is no way to provide support and believe it or not, some guys are insensitive enough to say those kinds of things! A woman can only take so much of that and will probably find herself looking for a more considerate guy if she has to listen to that kind of talk.
4. LACK OF INTIMACY
We know what you’re thinking but when we say “intimacy,” we do not mean sex. Sex is a physical act and does not always involve love or intimacy. What we are talking about is genuine emotional intimacy, like sharing your secrets and most private thoughts. It’s about establishing an openness that allows you to talk about almost anything with that special person. A woman appreciates that feeling of trust and it will probably make her love for her man even stronger.
5. HE WON’T FIGHT FAIR
Fights and disagreements are an inevitable part of almost every relationship and it’s important for both parties to play by some very basic rules. Always be willing to admit when something is clearly your fault and be willing to say you are sorry. Guys that won’t do that are likely to create a lot resentment in their lady that can wear her down and feel like she’s in a relationship that isn’t worth keeping. Fighting should not be about winning and should be about admitting when you’re wrong and knowing when and how to compromise.